Transcript of Introduction to 'Sexuality and Aging' Video

Many hundreds of years ago, the Greek poet Sophocles was asked a question, "How does love sit with age? Are you still the man you were?" To which Sophocles replied, "I am glad to have escaped all that. It was a mad and furious monster." What is this mad and furious monster, and does it change as we get older?

Our sexuality transcends our biological functioning. Sexuality encompasses self-perception, sexual-identity, emotional and physical responses, and attitudes. It is an affirmation of being alive. Unfortunately, our society does not view sexuality in older adults as life affirming. It is a subject that is often treated with ridicule and disdain, or dismissed as unimportant. Sexuality is equated with youth, beauty, and physical prowess. Our role models are the young. How much more comfortable it is, to think of your grandmother in a rocking chair reminiscing than it is to have her with sexual feelings. Most health care professionals have been taught little about aging and sexuality. They may fall prey to the same ageists' stereotypes and attitudes that are abound in our society. Yet these workers could play an important role in encouraging the continuation of sexual expression for those who needs the support.

Often the issue of sexuality is just beneath the surface when an older person talks of loss or loneliness. Medical problems and medications can interfere with sexual functioning. Depression, anxiety, grief, disappointment, or shame may compromise the older person's sense of his or her sense of sexuality. Health care workers can provide guidance, education, and acceptance. The New York Service Program for Older People, SPOP, is a mental health clinic for people ages 55 and older in Manhattan. As a therapist at SPOP, I work closely with my clients to help them find productive avenues for self-expression. Many older people welcome the opportunity to talk about sexuality, often having no other outlets in which they feel comfortable in expressing their concerns. Four of my clients have graciously and courageously agreed to share on camera their feelings about sexuality in aging. Each brings to the film a unique perspective.

LAUREN TAYLOR, C.S.W., Social Worker, New York Service Program for Older People (SPOP).

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