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Your true friends are ones that see you change, of course. Different aspects of life play on you, as to different circumstances, different temptations, different drives. Yet they believe in a certain fundamental inner integrity which will right itself, whatever you do. You may take up with some odd religion. You may take up with quite a bad set of people. You may go with the wrong kind of people and seem to like them. You may take up with a ludicrous political idea. You may become a technocrat. You may do anything, but the people who love you for yourself and who have shared their intimate problems with you, have shared yours, have seen you through trouble, as you've seen them through trouble, have learned to accommodate themselves to you in your real living, aren't affected by these things. That's just one of the things that happens to you. They continue to be your friend throughout, and you theirs. Friendship becomes a matter not necessarily of intellectual congeniality, but of mutual trustworthiness, willingness to help, serve and offer true creative sympathy that will come in and do something and not just feel sorry for you, dust off their hands and walk away.

That restfulness of association which comes with those persons, even though they may not have read any books that you have read and don't have any of the recreation that





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